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bookwyrmHow do nice people get together? and why does it seem to be so rare?
Is it that nice guys are too shy to ask nice girls out? So only jerks and users dare, so they're the ones who get the girls while the nice guys sit quietly pining in the corner?
How many times should one abortively try for a relationship before giving up? many people seem to think you should keep trying because there's "somebody out there for you" (god how i hate platitudes), but, really. if somebody keeps failing at something, we would think them rather stupid to keep trying, wouldn't we? so what makes love any different? why should i keep trying to find "someone special" when i haven't had any positive experiences to make me think it's even worth the effort? my only joy from relationships appears to have come from my own self-delusion. surely it would be just as easy to delude myself into thinking i'm perfectly happy alone in my own little corner, and it's a state that's a lot more stable.
i'd like to think i learn from experiences quickly. what i'm learning from this is that love isn't worth it. but if i choose not to pursue it anymore, it would be considered giving up or wimping out. why?
Is it that nice guys are too shy to ask nice girls out? So only jerks and users dare, so they're the ones who get the girls while the nice guys sit quietly pining in the corner?
How many times should one abortively try for a relationship before giving up? many people seem to think you should keep trying because there's "somebody out there for you" (god how i hate platitudes), but, really. if somebody keeps failing at something, we would think them rather stupid to keep trying, wouldn't we? so what makes love any different? why should i keep trying to find "someone special" when i haven't had any positive experiences to make me think it's even worth the effort? my only joy from relationships appears to have come from my own self-delusion. surely it would be just as easy to delude myself into thinking i'm perfectly happy alone in my own little corner, and it's a state that's a lot more stable.
i'd like to think i learn from experiences quickly. what i'm learning from this is that love isn't worth it. but if i choose not to pursue it anymore, it would be considered giving up or wimping out. why?
